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    Stress and Recovery

    Coping with Stress in Recovery Stress is simply a part of life that we can not ignore. When we get sober, coping with stress is…

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    How to Handle Social Anxiety In Recovery

    Are you wondering how to handle social anxiety when being of service in the community of a 12-step fellowship? Alcoholics and addicts can be overly…

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    Good…Bad

    Why Is It That When Things Are Going Good, Something Bad Always Happens? I know that I am not the only person who has ever…

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    Stress and Depression: Can Dreams Help Relieve the Suffering?

    The weight that stress and depression has the potential to put on you at times can be overwhelming. Though there are ways to manage the…

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    How To Build A Sober Support Group

    When you’re in recovery from an addiction to alcohol and/or drugs, building a support network can be an essential part of the recovery process. …

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    Made a Decision

    STEP 3: “Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.” People talk…

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  • Awakening

    Alcohol and Drug Addiction: I Am My Problem

    I remember sometime after being admitted to the hospital for treatment of my chemical addiction I believed that drugs and booze were my problem and that once I was free of them, I would be “just fine”. I mean it made sense didn’t it? Prior to drinking and drugging I had some problems…who doesn’t? But overall, I didn’t get REALLY messed up behaviorally until I started using. So upon entering treatment and the fog beginning to lift slightly, I got my first glimpse at the disaster, otherwise known as “Rebecca” and summarized that it should be easily fixed, all I needed to do…

  • Ambition

    Sobriety Has Nothing To Do With Luck

    Ever think someone is so lucky because they got sober and you couldn’t? Well, here is the great news, it has nothing to do with luck and you can achieve it, too. Luck is basically when preparation meets opportunity. So, let’s break that down in 5 easy steps to show you how you can achieve sobriety through a little self-made luck. Sober Luck Step 1 Admit You Have Problem Admitting you have a problem with drugs or alcohol is the first step towards long-term recovery. If you can’t admit it, it will be hard to fix it. This is…

  • Interviewing Skills

    The Interview Process

    As you prepare to re-enter the working world, here are some helpful tips for your upcoming interviews.

    The scenario: You happen upon a posted job opening via Craigslist, word of mouth, Facebook, etc. You read the job description and say, “Wow, I would really like to have that job.” You decide to take your chances; you fill out the mile-long application, submit your resume, cross your fingers, and wait (this could take days or weeks!) for a call. Tick-tock, tick-tock, tick-tock… will the phone ever ring?

    Suddenly, the sound of your favorite ring-tone comes to life and you answer, “Hello?” On the other end of the line is the opportunity you’ve been waiting for – an interview! You happily accept and begin planning for the big date.

    Before the Interview:

    Do Your Homework!

    Take some time to research the company and position that you will be interviewing for. Get to know the mission and focus of the company. Will this be a good fit for you? Do the goals and ambitions of the company match your professional goals and ambitions? If information about or a personal statement from the officers of the company is posted, ( especially if one of them is the person you will be interviewing with) be sure to take a look at their credentials and what they have to say about the company and their goals.

    Double Check Your Facts

    If you haven’t already submitted a resume, you will need to spend some time making sure that your contact information is correct, your qualifications are listed appropriately, and be able to explain any discrepancies or gaps in dates of employment. If you have career accomplishments or awards listed on your resume, be sure that they are geared towards the company’s goals and are appropriate for the job you are interviewing for. Once your resume is completed, print a few copies to bring to the interview.

    Role Play

    After researching your prospective place of employment and brushing up on your resume, grab a friend or family member who is willing to help you practice your interview. Here are some sample questions to get you started:

    How would you describe yourself?

    What do you know about our company?

    What do you look for in a job/career and what are your career goals?

    Why should we hire you?

    How does this position fit into your overall career plan?

    How would your colleagues/boss describe you?

    What are the most significant accomplishments in your career so far?

    Can you work well under deadlines or pressure?

    Have you kept up in your field with additional training?

    What are your strong & weak points?

    Why did you leave your last position?

    If it helps, write down answers to these questions before you begin to practice. Try to keep answers concise while making sure to fully answer the question.

    Practice Your Handshake

    Many prospective employers base their decision about a prospective employee off of first impressions. Besides dress and manners, a proper handshake with the right amount of grip will make a significant difference in the result of your interview.

    Get a Good Night’s Rest

    Looking exhausted upon your arrival will not likely yield employment. The standard 8 hours of sleep should leave you full of energy to take on the excitement of the interview.

    Dress for Success!

    If you are interviewing for an office job, you will want to dress in business casual attire. Some examples are:

    For men: dress shirt (white, a shade of blue, or even a soft yellow) slacks, a tie, belt, dress shoes and socks.

    For women: dress slacks and a blouse, or a pencil skirt and blouse, and close-toed shoes (preferably a heel that is approximately 2 inches high).

    Choose your outfit the night before. Be sure that all garments are clean and pressed. Hair and nails should be under control and should be subtle. Don’t forget that dressing for an interview is different than dressing for a date! Generally speaking, your interviewer should get to know you by how you answer questions, and not by attire or appearances.

    *Colognes and perfumes should be reasonable. Wearing a strong scent could annoy your interviewer. Or they could be allergic to perfumes. A great way to wear a hint of scent is to spray twice into the air in front of you, and then walk through. Tada!

    At the interview:

    Arrive Early

    The night before your interview, check the weather. If it will be raining, snowing, rush hour, etc., be sure to give yourself extra travel time to navigate traffic or catch the right bus. Plan your travel so that you will arrive anywhere from 10 – 15 minutes ahead of your scheduled interview time. Once you arrive on company grounds, employ your professional manners immediately. You never know who is watching – your interviewer could be outside amongst other company employees!

    Spit Out Your Gum!

    If your breath smells funky, you may want to freshen up. Most likely you will not have your toothbrush and toothpaste in the car; however, if you feel the need to freshen your breath, tic-tacs, a breathmint, or breath spray is ideal.

    Keep Eye Contact

    Keep eye contact with your interviewer. (It’s ok to blink or glance away briefly!) Keeping consistent eye contact shows your interviewer that you are very interested in not only the interview, but primarily, obtaining this position.
    Be Positive No matter how you feel about past employers, managers, or co-workers, or job duties, be sure to avoid making negative comments whenever possible. Employers are looking for employees who have a positive attitude to contribute to their workplace.

    Adapt

    Listen carefully and adapt to the questions being asked. Try to get a feel early for the style of your interviewer by paying attention to the way they dress, the office atmosphere and furniture, and the general décor of the office that you are interviewing in. These clues can be very useful when tailoring the answers to your interview questions.

    Relate

    Relate your answers to interview questions to the company or the person you are interviewing with. Focus on job experience, achievements, skills, and awards that are relevant to the company and your desired position.
    Promotion

    Encourage your interviewer to share information about his or her company and answer any questions you may have. Some suggested questions to ask the interviewer are:

    Why is this position open?

    How often has it been filled in the past five years? What were the main reasons?

    What would you like done differently by the next person who fills this position?

    What are some of the objectives you would like to see accomplished in this job?

    What are some of the more difficult problems one would have to face in this position?

    What advancement opportunities are available for the person who is successful in this position, and within what time frame?

    In what ways has this organization been most successful in terms of products and services over the years?

    How is one evaluated in this position?

    After the Interview:

    One of the most important things you can do to improve your chances of a job offer is to say, “Thank you!” Continuing to display professional manners even after the interview will go a long way. It is highly recommended that you send either an email or brief letter to your interviewer, thanking them for the opportunity to interview for the position, re-stating your contact information, and expressing your hope to hear from them soon.

    Best of luck!

  • Resume Writing

    When applying for jobs, you will be asked to submit your resume. If you don’t have one already written (or if you do, and want to freshen it up), check out these resume writing tips to help you market yourself to future employers.

    Before you begin

    When you are preparing to write a resume, you need to set objectives. What is the job position? What are the objectives of the company for the person they hire? What are your objectives in obtaining that position? In your resume, you will need to clearly state what you want (the job position) and how you think you are qualified for that position. The average time spent reviewing a resume is between 10 – 30 seconds, so prioritizing the content of your resume according to specific objectives will help draw attention to your resume.

    Creating your resume

    You will need to include the following information in the header of your resume:

    First Name and Last Name

    Full Address

    If you will be moving soon to the area of the job you are applying for and have an address there already, include the new address on your resume

    Phone number (the best number to reach you at – home or cell phone)

    Email address (you may want to consider creating a new email account with a more professional address. For example:

    This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.
    ).

    Be sure to double-check all of your contact information for accuracy! If you have a gender-neutral name like Alex, consider including “Mr.” or “Ms.” before your name.

    Creating Your Objective Statement

    Before you even began to write your resume, you should have your career objectives in mind. You should write those objectives in a one-sentence summary below your contact information. This objective should be customized for each company that you apply for, so be sure to make changes according to each position and job description. This objective should not include salary requirements!

    Citing Your Work Experience

    As mentioned above, your resume is a marketing tool all about YOU! Your work experience should be a list of your strengths as well as an opportunity to highlight your skills and relevant experiences from past positions that are relevant to the job and company that you are applying for. As the working world becomes more competitive, companies are looking for more than just training and education; they are looking for a proven track record.

    As you begin to write out your relevant work history, be sure to include your most recent work experiences first. Usually the 3 most recently held positions will suffice. If your work history extends past 15 years, consider listing only the most relevant positions  you have held in the last 10 years. Including graduation dates as well as extensive work histories alludes to your age, which could lead to age discrimination in the hiring process. However, if your best and most relevant work experience was before 15 years ago, besure that you state the relevancy of the position very specifically.

    If, over several years, you have multiple different types of jobs, highlight the most important and relevant tasks you held in each position. Listing several jobs without including their relevance to the position you are applying for can make you seem flighty.

    Tips for writing

    Use bulleted, concise sentences in the body of your resume. Save the details for the interview! Each job listing should have three to four bullet points.

    Specifically state “what” you know as well as “who” you know. If you worked directly under the CEO of your last company, say so!

    List the strongest and most relevant points first under each position listed

    Use action words: prepared, managed, developed, monitored, presented, disciplined, creative, problem solver, etc. Avoid using the same action word repeatedly! Additionally, some resumes are read by a computer only and scanned for specific keywords, so be specific in your choices and use keywords that are used in the original job posting.

    Use %, $, and #. Numbers tend to stand out in the body of a resume amidst a sea of text.

    Write custom resumes for each position you apply for! By customizing your objectives and strengths to each individual company you are interested in, your resume will be more likely to be considered for the interview process.

    Be positive! Leave out any irrelevant points or that you hated your last job.

    DO NOT include race, age, height, weight, etc.

    Special circumstances

    Jail time: If you have been incarcerated for any amount of time, you usually should not list this information on your resume. Nevertheless, you will likely be required to provide this information on an application. If you have questions about how to present this information appropriately, consult an attorney.

    Gaps in employment: You SHOULD NOT provide explanations to any gaps in your employment history on your resume. However, you should be prepared to explain any gaps during the interview.

    Formatting Tips

    Font should be no smaller than 10pt, and usually no larger than 12pt. (However, your name can be in a larger font size – try 1pt. Try to stick to standard fonts like Times New Roman or Arial.

    Keep your resume to 1 page if possible, and no longer than 2 pages.

    White space is ok! Don’t worry about filling up each line with lots of text – more white space can be appealing to the eye and help your resume be seen.

    Before sending out your resume to potential employers, be sure to get outside opinions. Having a friend or family member review your resume before you send it can help you steer clear of any unwanted keywords, or worse, spelling mistakes.

    Proofread at least twice!

    DO NOT include pictures unless you are applying for a modeling or acting job.

    NO fancy designs unless you are applying for a design job.

    You can use paper that makes your resume stand out – a little larger or smaller, slightly thicker than copy paper, and generally a white, cream, or gray (not hot pink!)

    Use a good printer to print out your original or make copies of your resume. *Laser jet printers produce great color, but can flake off if the paper is bent.

    Really want the job? Send it certified mail or deliver it in person.

    Following these tips will help you write an outstanding resume. Happy writing!

  • Office Etiquette

    While in recovery or after having recovered from an addiction, finding a job or continuing a career is important to continued sobriety. The first impression is the impression that your employer will remember. In a professional work setting there are some etiquette guidelines that, when followed, can lead to success in the workplace.

    Dress For Success

    Before going out on a shopping spree for a new job it is best to keep your wardrobe to something that is simple and business casual.

    Business casual for men means that men should wear a pair of dress slacks or khakis that are clean, pressed and wrinkle free along with a tucked in button-down long sleeve shirt. Depending on the environment of the workplace, a tie might be a good idea as well. For the first few weeks, to ensure a good first impression, it is best to avoid the short-sleeve polo because you want to be perceived as a professional.

    Women should wear dress slacks or a skirt that is at least to just above the knee with a top that has sleeves. A woman in a professional work environment should never wear tight fitting tops or pants, short skirts, flip flops, or tops that expose the midriff. After getting settled into the job and learning about the environment, you can begin to show a tasteful fashion sense within the realm of a business casual dress code.

    Beware of Web Browsing

    While at work, it is always best to stay productive and focused on the task at hand rather than stray to surfing the internet. Many companies will monitor the internet usage of their employees while at work. There are programs that give employers the ability to check what Web sites employees visit as well as how long they spend on each Web site. Rather than browse the internet when you need a mental break, it is better to take a few moments to converse with coworkers.

    Facebook is another application that should me monitored and controlled thoughtfully. By adjusting the privacy settings, you can protect your professional image at work by restricting what your boss and coworkers can view on your page. This is also a good practice when looking for a job as well because more now than ever, employers are looking to Facebook to see how a potential employee holds themselves in public.

    Writing a Proper E-mail

    It is important to keep a professional image at all times while at work, this includes electronic communication as well. With the popularity of instant messaging and text messaging, abbreviated language developed to make communication more convenient. It is essential to never use abbreviated language when speaking, and composing professional documents and e-mails.

    When composing an e-mail there should be a greeting like “good morning” or simply the name of the recipient followed by a colon. You should never type an e-mail using all capital letters. The body of the e-mail should be composed with complete sentences and a professional tone. A polite phrase that fits your personality is all you need to close an e-mail followed by your name. After writing the e-mail proofread it for spelling and grammar errors before sending it.

    Be Respectful of Co-workers

    There are many things that a professional must do to be respectful towards their coworkers.

    Many offices have a small kitchen that employees are allowed to use. This office kitchen may only be cleaned once a day so you should always clean up after yourself and leave the kitchen looking just as it did before you used it.

    Cell phones in the workplace are unavoidable because they are most people’s main form of communication. When you are in the office you should silence your cell phone and not use any fancy ring tones that might bother coworkers. Also, when speaking to someone on the phone, it is important to keep your end of the conversation polite so that you don’t disrupt your coworkers. There is also the right and wrong time to answer a phone call and it is important to be aware of your surroundings.

    Finally, always use common courtesy when dealing with another person. This includes using basic phrases like please and thank you.

  • Communication Skills

    Communication Skills in the Workplace

    What is Communication?  Communication is the process of sharing information, such as thoughts and messages, with another person or group of people through speech, non-verbal cues, and writing. For communication to be effective, your message must be understood by the intended recipient(s) in the manner that you intended it to be received.

    Whether you work in an office building, from home, or in the field, you will need to be able to communicate clearly with managers, employees, coworkers, and customers on a friendly and professional level. In almost every workplace, effective communication is a vital skill which can be used to avoid conflict or errors, maintain an efficient workflow, and simply display proper workplace etiquette. This skill is also usually a significant factor when it comes to employers determining which employees receive promotions.

    Written Communication

    As the workplace continues to evolve, many forms of written communication (memos, reports, project updates) have become computer-based or communicated through informal conversations. Most commonly, written communication takes place through e-mail. These e-mails, though usually informal, still need to follow these basic etiquette tips in order to be interpreted correctly and professionally:

    Keep it short. The longer your initial e-mail, the longer the reply will take. Long e-mails provide more opportunities to miss-communicate your ideas to the recipient. If the topic requires in-depth discussion, it is usually better to talk about it face to face.

    Focus on one topic. If you need to address several topics, you are better off sending an additional e-mail for each additional subject. *The title of each e-mail should be concise, and specifically state the subject.

    Limit To, CC, and BCC recipients. Do not copy everyone in the office just to “keep them in the loop”. Address only the employees involved in the conversation, and include others only when necessary.

    Spell check. It is very important to check for spelling errors before sending an e-mail – especially if the e-mail is being sent from your phone. Responses sent from PDA’s or smart phones do not allow you the excuse for poor spelling and grammar.

    Do not forward chain letters. Keep chain letters outside of the workplace; your boss and co-workers are not likely to enjoy these inbox-cloggers. If you receive scam e-mails, report them to your company’s IT department so the sender can be blocked.

    Despite the take-over of e-mail, two other forms of written communications have persisted: Reports and Forms. Most companies, both large and small, require their employees to use at least one of these methods of written communication.

    For example, in the service industry, forms are often used to record information such as patient data, customer service records, and even basic operating information relating to daily tasks. If these forms are not completed, or are written poorly, important information is likely to be entered incorrectly into computer systems, which can cause customers to not receive service in a timely manner, or patients who may not receive the care that they require.

    Clear, concise technical writing will always be an asset. The smaller the company, the more likely you are to receive tasks that involve writing or record keeping. Often, these tasks are assigned to newer employees, which allow them to display their skills and an interest in growing with the company.

    Oral Communication

    Verbal communication is the most popular choice for relaying important information. Exceptional interpersonal skills (interactions between individuals) are highly sought after by many employers. The ability to communicate your thoughts and opinions clearly displays critical thinking, adaptation, and problem solving skills.

    The ability to accurately communicate policies, services, and answer customer questions is highly valuable, and often rewarded. It is not uncommon that employers will test their employees on their oral communication skills, especially in a workplace focused on customer service. Other tests may be based on the ability to follow direction, solicit feedback, or how people learn. Successful employees are able to remain “cool under fire”, adapt to stressful situations and a fast pace, and learn new technology quickly. Many of these tests allow employers to observe if their team works well together, and communicates well with one another. A breakdown in oral communication can lead to an overall loss of productivity from the group.

    Often included in oral communication skills is the ability to display proper phone etiquette. When speaking to customers, use common courtesy, and use phrases such as “Please” and “Thank You”. A good practice for telephone conversations is to smile; the person on the other end of the line cannot see you, but your positive attitude is reflected in your tone. Remember, the same way that you can tell your friend is having a bad day by the way they speak to you, customers and co-workers can tell if you are disinterested in what they have to say.

    Non-Verbal Communication

    Non-verbal messages are communicated not only through body language, but also with the way that we present ourselves. See the list below for some tips on how to make sure you convey your meaning through non-verbal cues:

    Personal   Space: The distance you stand from another person conveys your comfort      level, as well as respect for that person. Be sure to observe and adjust your distance from the person with whom you are speaking, to make sure that you both have a comfortable conversation.

    Posture: Slouching and crossed arms indicate a lack of interest in a conversation. The way you stand indicates your attention level. When speaking to others, face the person, stand up straight, and do not cross your arms.

    Facial Expressions: Every smile, yawn, and frown conveys a message to the recipient. Receivers rely on expressions, because they are a better indication of the meaning behind the message being spoken.

    Eye Contact: Maintain eye contact during a discussion. Changes in eye contact indicate important signals that include clues for when to speak, when a conversation is complete, and attention level. Direct stares indicate openness and trust, where downward glances are indications of modesty.

    Physical Contact: Acceptable contact in the workplace is usually limited to a handshake. Personal contact such as touching, hugging, pushing, and even patting on the back, reflect a level of intimacy that is generally unacceptable for the office.

    Listening

    There is a noticeable difference between hearing and listening. Hearing is simply the use of our ears to recognize words being spoken. Listening is paying attention by hearing, attention, thinking, and reasoning, all of which help us interpret the intended message.

    Many times when we are involved in a conversation, we become distracted by other sounds, sights, and even people around us, which prevent us from really listening. This is also known as passive listening. In order to communicate well and show your respect for others, you need to learn to become an active listener – someone who is engaged in the message a speaker is sending. Paying attention to full words, expressions, and moods help you to perceive the intended message with ease. One way that you can encourage yourself to use active listening, is to paraphrase what the speaker has said during your conversation. This way both you and the speaker can ensure that the correct message is being relayed.

    In most work environments, management encourages a safe and open environment for honest communication. This environment promotes listening to what others have to say about their experiences or difficulties, and sometimes responses, advice, and consolation are not needed. Many times, people just want to be heard, and the quiet attentiveness of a listener often helps to avoid miscommunication, conflict and hurt feelings.

    Implementation

    Improving your communication skills is not a quick or easy process, so do not become discouraged if you find yourself forgetting to use active listening, slouching, or losing eye contact during conversations. Excellent communication skills are practiced and developed over time. The good news? You can improve your skills faster by working on them every day. You have the opportunity to practice communication any time, whether at work or at home, with friends or with family. Reflecting on your conversations at the end of every day, and reviewing their effectiveness will help you to continue to learn and grow faster. You will know your skills are working when your conversations with others become more meaningful, and you are able to reflect on the day with the knowledge that every conversation was more effective and portrayed your messages the way you intended.

  • Staying True To Yourself

    Staying True To Yourself

     

    Getting lost as a human being is one of the easiest yet most painful things that can happen. Going from an easy, breezy life in recovery to something sneaking up on you and shaking your world upside down is scary and confusing. When something like this happens we typically tend to lose sight of what makes us happy and what keeps us grounded.

    Maybe you never wanted to lose sight of what matters to you. Maybe you didn’t have a choice because of the circumstances you found yourself in. Either way this is not the time to think about the “what if’s”, this is the time to put your head up and start a new journey, one that you’ll never forget. If you’re reading this it’s because you’ve already spent a lot of time thinking about all that junk. It’s time to be set free.

    Tips on Staying True to Yourself

    1: Get your best supporters and let them know that you are setting out to be the best you and to stick true to what you desire. They will totally understand and back you up.

    2: Make a list of what matters to you the most. You can make this one fun! Take it easy on yourself and don’t think too much. This will help you to become grounded and get back to what helps you stay true to yourself. Exp. Sobriety, Higher Power and Family…

    3: Stop focusing on others. An easy way to lose yourself is to focus on others. That is not needed right now. People can and have the right to take care of themselves.

    4: Stay on your path. Don’t let the opinions of others deter you from staying true to you.

    5: Write. Start a journal. Anyone can take 5 minutes to write, it doesn’t matter if you are a man of woman.

    6: Set and keep your boundaries. Do not steer away from your boundaries. Stick true to what you have chosen to make right in your life.

    7: Never forget that you are the number one priority. EVER!

    We hope these suggestions help to bring you back to a place where you feel comfortable with being who you are. Remember that others go through this same thing and sometimes it easier if you don’t compare your growth to those around you. Stay on your path and know that you’re doing this to be the best possible YOU! 

     

  • Sobriety Has Nothing To Do With Luck

     

    Ever think someone is so lucky because they got sober and you couldn’t? Well, here is the great news, it has nothing to do with luck and you can achieve it, too.

    Luck is basically when preparation meets opportunity. So, let’s break that down in 5 easy steps to show you how you can achieve sobriety through a little self-made luck.

    Sober Luck

    Step 1 Admit You Have Problem

    Admitting you have a problem with drugs or alcohol is the first step towards long-term recovery. If you can’t admit it, it will be hard to fix it. This is where you also have to let go of your old ideas about your recovery and also let go of the blame you may be placing on others.

    Step 2 Acknowledge You Can’t Do It Alone

    After you admit there is a problem, you have to also be aware that you can’t fix this problem on your own. You trying to fix you will not work if the problem stems from, well, you. How can a sick mind and body fix a sick mind and body? Outside help is what will guide you out of the vicious cycle of addiction.

    Step 3 Ask For Help And Take Suggestions

    Now that you admit you have a problem, acknowledge you can’t do it alone and fix said problem, it’s time to ask for help. Once you have asked for help, you will want to take the suggestions given to you by those who have already gone through the process and are now sober. If you do not take the suggestions, you may find it difficult to continue on in your recovery.

    Step 4 Get Prepared

    By working with a sponsor, taking suggestions, and working the 12-steps of an anonymous program and/or the attendance of treatment, you are getting prepared to help meet your opportunity at living a life sober. It is a combination of suggestions and actions that help get you prepared.

    Step 5 Take The Opportunity

    After your foundation in recovery is created, this is where you have the true opportunity to live life on life’s terms clean and sober. Essentially, this is where your luck has been created by preparing for the opportunity.

    Recovery Is A Reality

    If you are still struggling at staying sober, please contact us today at 1-877-975-4837. It’s time to finally turn your luck around and go after the life you deserve. 

     

  • Keeping Promises To Myself And Others

     

    Keeping promises may seem like an uphill battle for you as an alcoholic and/or addict, especially when having to make a commitment to yourself. It can be overwhelming when you set your expectations to specific outcomes. Not to mention how difficult it can when you’re in early recovery for an addiction to alcohol and/or drugs and dealing with control issues!

    Keeping Promises

    Why It’s Important

    Implementing the change to work on honoring your word can prove to provide you the inner dignity and respect that paves way for you as a sober individual in society. So, how exactly do you manage to keep your word to yourself? By treating the promise seriously, following through with it, and making sure you meet the requirements for the commitment, you will be well on your way for when it comes to keeping promises.

    A Promise Is A Contract

    Making a promise with yourself should be treated seriously, like a contract, especially if it comes to your recovery program. When active in addiction, you were willing to go to any lengths to get substances, so make a commitment to yourself to do the same for your recovery. You should be willing to take suggestions and build a network of sober supports.

    Following Through

    Following through with your promises is vital. Anybody can talk the talk but not everybody can walk the walk. It’s one thing to make a promise, but actually keeping your word and seeing it through to the finish is what makes the difference.

    Commitment To Yourself

    Making sure you have the requirements to fulfill keeping promises to yourself is important. If you know you can’t keep the commitment to yourself, don’t set yourself up for failure. Don’t be so hard on yourself either. Misjudgment that addicts and alcoholics are typically known for can be explained as giving up on committing to keeping promises because of having the preconceived notion of failing. Don’t avoid making a commitment because you’re under the assumption you’ll fail. Talk your fears over with a sponsor or sober support first.

    Integrity

    What does it really mean to make a commitment to yourself in recovery? Making a commitment to yourself in recovery means you put value into your mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being. It means you appreciate the inner and divine you. You unconditionally love yourself and see that you are worthy of honor and respect. You owe it to yourself to keep a promise and to value your commitments to yourself. Start with small goals like getting up at the same time every day or reading a page of a book each night. One step at a time can help a man move up a mountain. Promises to yourself deal with integrity, which is defined as honoring your word. This is taken seriously because individuals who stick by their word are people who are reliable and accountable. These are people who say what they mean and mean what they say. When people honor their integrity, they gain dignity.

    When you were active in your disease, you were selfish. The actions you committed affected others. You couldn’t see how you hurt others and yet you were likely the chief critic of them. Judging the world around you can often mean you were being hard on yourself. Now you are left with having to rebuild an inner trust with yourself first which will set the foundation for relationships and solidify true authentic friendships. Getting a trusting relationship with yourself can seem like a tall order but it’s a process much like keeping promises is. Remember when it comes to being able to keep commitments to yourself, you have to hold yourself accountable by taking it seriously through treating it like a contract, moving forward with the promise by taking action, and understanding what is required of commitments.

    Are you struggling with keeping promises like stopping to drink and/or drug but find that you cannot abstain? Call The Watershed for help now.